Ernest W. Jr Swihart

Why do so many of our children, raised in one of the most affluent nations on earth, fail to thrive and strive and enter adulthood lacking appropriate and effective coping skills? Drs. Swihart and Cotter have come up with a revolutionary theory on why our kids are having such a tough time of it today: It is because we allow our children to manipulate us, and the world around them, rather than teaching them how to respond to life and life's tough situations. The result is that manipulative behavior is directly tied to low self-esteem, which only heightens its negative impact on children, families, and the larger communities we live in. The program teaches parents to say no without feeling guilt; to resist the urge to feel responsible for their child's happiness; to view their children as emotionally competent and resilient; and most importantly, to realize that effective parenting means allowing your child to make mistakes and develop a sense of competence, which leads to enhanced self-esteem and an ability to live independently and successfully in the real world.

Drawing on their twenty-five years in private practice, the authors illustrate their program with examples of successful children, as well as case studies of how parents have regained control and effectively blocked their children's manipulative behavior.… (mehr)