Jonathan Halverstadt

The review I wrote on Amazon:

This book was informative about learning the basics of how ADD can affect relationships, from the perspective of both ADD and non-ADD partners. It was the first book I read on the subject, so I learned a fair amount.

That said, there are some things I wish I had known about this book before I bought it. These may not be issues for many, but there are plenty of us out there who would like to know these things:

1. This book is completely heteronormative. All relationships discussed are M/F.

2. The book assumes the relationship in question is marriage or imminently headed in that direction

3. The book assumes traditional monogamy as the only non-harmful form of relationship.

4. As the book progresses there is more and more Christianity slipped in. First there are more and more references to God and praying for help. Then there is a recommendation of the Promise Keepers, and reading the Bible together.

5. The book very strongly recommends medication for ADD partners, with no real discussion of options or strategies for people who may not be comfortable with being medicated. The implication is that if you care about your relationship, you will medicate.

6. It is hard to understand how the three children of the book's "model couple" as a success story of an ADD relationship get taken care of, given all the things this couple do to keep their relationship strong. I read it thinking they must have a live-in nanny, which just isn't realistic for the vast majority of people.

If any of these things are going to turn you off or irritate you, you may want to check out a different book on this topic.… (mehr)