Patricia Love

This book is paradoxical and hard to evaluate. So many good insights that ring true in profound ways, but wrapped in flimsy socio-biological reasoning and repugnant generalizations about gender. So often the examples imply that women should be doormats and not expect equal partnerships -- don't interrupt him when he's reading the newspaper or he'll be flooded with cortisol and can't be expected to respond like a person! Don't criticize or he'll shut down from shame! (No answer to what am I supposed to do with these dirty dishes, though.) The most valuable piece was the advice to work hard to see things from your partner's perspective, not just your own. Also the importance of nonverbal communication and staying approachable, not avoiding or attacking. Not stated, but implied: be the change you want to see in your relationship.… (mehr)