Lauren F. Winner

2.5 stars

Winner seemed a little confused about her end goal. On the one hand, she spends a lot of time talking about the spirituality of sex (intuitive, abstract concepts) and on the other hand, she tries to address some very practical, lines-in-the-sand guidelines for sexual purity; she winds up failing on both accounts, as she often is contradictory.

My major concern is that her arguments are often not rooted in Biblical text, but rather on her or another person's opinion and reasoning. For instance, when she speaks of masturbation, she comes to the conclusion that occasional masturbation is acceptable, but it shouldn't be a regular thing. Her support? One pastor's opinion. In another instance, she tells of a mentor who advised her and her now-husband to refrain (while dating) from doing "anything sexual that you wouldn't be comfortable doing on the steps of [a public building]." (p. 106) Though it seems like good advice on the surface, it overlooks the fact that comfort levels vary, and the more we do something, the more comfortable we become with it. God's standards, on the other hand, are not relative or subject to changing comfort levels. She also fails to really explore the fact that sexual sin, at its core, is a matter of the heart. (She concludes by saying that she and her boyfriend kissed to their hearts' content and stopped just short of taking their clothes off. There are a whole lot of things you can do with your clothes on, so that's not reassuring!)

Since this is a book on chastity, I was expecting a little more attention to be paid to singleness and celibacy. (Even though chastity isn't a synonym for celibacy, most people associate the two terms.) Actually, most of the book is focused on marriage. Even in the one chapter specifically designated to celibacy, Winner still ends up addressing marriage. (Since she wasn't a virgin before marriage, and she began dating/became engaged to/married her husband all while writing this book, it stands to reason that she had little experience with singleness and celibacy, and I can see why she had a difficult time focusing on the topic. That doesn't really help those of us who are single and celibate, though.)

If you're single and looking for a book that focuses a bit more on that lifestyle, I would highly recommend [b:Singled Out: Why Celibacy Must Be Reinvented in Today's Church|5460016|Singled Out Why Celibacy Must Be Reinvented in Today's Church|Christine A. Colón|https://d.gr-assets.com/books/1347719486s/5460016.jpg|5527604].

Having said all that, here are a few quotes that I did appreciate:

"For the point of chastity is not that you turn your attention away from other people to make you more attractive to them but that you turn your attention away from sexual and romantic entanglements with other people and orient yourself toward God." (p.131)

"The unmarried Christian who practices chastity refrains from sex in order to remember that God desires your person, your body, more than any man or woman ever will." (p. 128)

On confronting others' sexual sin: "I was once asked what I would say to a friend whom I knew was having premarital sex... I [replied] that the first step in speaking to my friends about sex was making sure that we enjoyed relationships built on top of hundreds of ordinary shared experiences – plays attended together and pumpkins carved together and accompanying one another on doctors appointments and changing the oil together... Community doesn't come about simply by having hard, intimate conversations. Having hard, intimate conversations is part of what is possible when people are already opening up their day-to-day lives to one another." (p.59)… (mehr)

A short and sweet intro into how the church and its believers can incorporate some of the practices of its spiritual forebears.

Not too heady or emotional, this book is a nice change of pace from the trendy books published recently that are high in anecdotal reasons for remaking all of Christianity, but low in cogent reasoning. As this book is meant to whet the reader's appetite for further reading / learning, Winner produces the right mix of intellect and humor.

Recommended as a starting point for those who are seeking further depth in their spiritual walk, as well as for those who would like to complement their faith with more meaningful practices.… (mehr)

In her follow up to her autobiographical account of her conversion to Christianity from Orthodox Judaism the author reflects on the rituals that she misses from her former practice, and how she attempts to keep some of them in practicing her new faith. In the process she as a relatively new Christian explains Jewish rituals to her fellow Christians and their theological underpinnings. Since Christianity is an offshoot of Judaism, and like Judaism and Islam worship the same God, there is a lot of comparing and contrasting in her ruminations, such as her after church routine of going to her local coffee shop, the Mudhouse of the title, and reflecting on her new Sunday routine and the much quieter and more disciplined Shabbat she formerly kept on Saturdays.… (mehr)

Summary:Despite her conversion from Orthodox Judaism to Christianity, Lauren Winner finds that her life is still shaped by the spiritual essences of Judaism - rich traditions and religious practices that she can't leave behind. In Mudhouse Sabbath, Winner illuminates eleven spiritual practices that can transform the way we view the world, and God. Whether discussing her own prayer life, the spirituality of candle-lighting, or the differences between the Jewish Sabbath and a Sunday spent at the Mudhouse, her favorite coffee shop, Winner writes with appealing honesty and rare insight… (mehr)