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Be Safe I Love You von Cara Hoffman
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Be Safe I Love You (2015. Auflage)

von Cara Hoffman (Autor)

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Returning with deep psychological scars after a tour of duty in Iraq, soldier Lauren Clay guides her younger brother to an upstate New York oil field that has become the subject of her obsession and begins teaching him survival skills while revealing her experiences.
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I was torn by the thought of this book. I wanted to read it to see if the author could do justice to the condition some of our military personnel come home in....and I didn't want to read it for the very same reason. Call it a little too close to home.

Though I saw some of the same things in my uncle and witnessed his crack of reality I never fully got the scope of what he was carrying. While I'm not saying Lauren's story made me see the light I get how these soldiers get so messed up and feel that sense of entrapment by the very things they loved and promised to come home to.

The changing of situations in your mind to be able to deal with them. The wanting to make sure your loved ones can take care of themselves. The feeling of constantly being on guard. The wariness strangers have when they meet a returning vet for the first time. The author touched on all of it. And it wasn't clear cut, there were no real 'defining' moments when Lauren's loved ones knew she was in trouble...just the feeling something is off but you don't know what. That's it in a nutshell.

Danny, what a bad ass little brother. With his love and sense of humor he does what the adults can't... loves her enough to risk everything to bring Lauren back from the edge. No questioning it or taking cautious steps to approaching her. Nope, Lauren is in trouble and she needs me, that's all he needed to know. Considering the things she put him through and times she scared him, his devotion to her,that's what makes me break down in tears.

Now I'd like a sequel so I can see how the rest of her loved ones have changed and where their lives headed seeing that Lauren's condition made a few of them take a good long look at their lives and dreams.

**I received this book as part of the Goodreads First Reads Giveaways***
  ChachaJ | Feb 1, 2021 |
We ask those in the military to leave their homes and families and go all over the world to ensure our safety. People choose to accept this request for any number of reasons but whatever the motivation is, it's not an easy thing we ask of them. And unacknowledged or unknown by the civilian population, it's also not an easy thing for these soldiers to come home again, to re-immerse themselves in everyday life, to leave the things that they saw, troubling or disturbing or horrifying, behind them. It is a combination of what happens out there in the field, what those serving internalize and bring home, and the ways in which regular society fails our returned military in terms of mental health and support that keeps so many of the people who put their own lives on the line for us everyday in the news in such negative ways. PTSD is very real and it is a terrible thing. The percentage of returned soldiers who commit suicide is staggering. If we are going to ask people to witness the terrible things that they see and to risk themselves every day, until we can solve war, we owe it to them to find a way to help them live productive lives after their tours of duty are finished. In Cara Hoffman's latest novel, Be Safe I Love You, readers follow Lauren Clay, a young woman just back from Iraq and suffering from PTSD as she looks with changed eyes on her family, friends, and the town in which they live.

Lauren Clay comes home from a tour in Iraq to no fanfare. She wanted to surprise everyone she loves so she didn't tell them she was coming. She's especially eager to see her younger brother Danny, for whom she was the caretaker for so many years after their mother abandoned them and their father sank into a deep depression. A naturally gifted singer, Lauren gave up a chance at further training in order to enlist to ensure Danny a better, more secure life than the one she lived. When she comes back into town, she is somehow different in ways that no one can quite explain. Thinking that she just needs time to readjust, no one worries or wonders about the pent up anger she is clearly carrying. The town is full of military and former military so they understand that reentry will be a prolonged and personal experience for her as she comes to terms with all the changes that her five years gone have wrought. But ex-boyfriend Shane, best friend Holly, voice teacher Troy, her father, and her 13 year old brother all overlook, or maybe just don't want to acknowledge, the fact that Lauren isn't okay and she carries deeper, darker scars than they can even imagine. In fact, she is spiraling out of control, hallucinating and confusing reality with memories and stories, and she needs help.

When Lauren comes back to the US, she's been fast tracked through her out processing because she doesn't show any signs of being at risk. She has plans for the future and a family waiting for her. But what she discovers at home bears little resemblance to what she left when she enlisted. Her brother is a typical teenager. He spends hours on his phone and his computer. The mother who abandoned them as children is interested in their lives and willing to be present for both Danny and Lauren if they want. Ex-boyfriend Shane went off to college and his world perspective no longer matches Lauren's. And the biggest change of all, her father is no longer depressed. When she discovers that it only took a couple of months on anti-depressants to regulate him and pull him out of bed after she left, she is angry and bitter that he didn't solve this problem before. But his re-emergence also serves to strip her of the caretaker role she fully expected to reassume when she came home. Having her expectations collapse, even for a good reason, leaves her floundering to define her new role. And it is in this life of uncertainty, one that she can't quite believe is safe, that Lauren starts to exhibit more and more signs of PTSD.

Lauren as a character is frozen and remote from everyone, including the reader. She does show flashes of fire when her anger erupts occasionally, when she cannot keep it tamped down in the place where her memories from Iraq are stored. She works so hard to keep that fire contained, not letting it melt and consume the stark, white blankness inside of her, because she doesn't want to remember the terrible things she did or the tragedy she saw. Running off to the Jeanne d'Arc Basin in the middle of winter, on her way to meet up with Daryl, the fellow soldier and close friend with whom she made future plans, accurately reflects her inner mental state. She is a character who needs the reader's sympathy but whose inexplicable rage towards those she cares about tests that sympathy time and again. There are a couple of secondary plot lines that don't add much to the story and seem either out of place or just filler doing nothing to illuminate the main story line, including Lauren's best friend Holly's relationship with Patrick; Troy, Lauren's voice teacher's oft repeated locally accepted lack of intelligence; and ex-boyfriend Shane's discussion with his current girlfriend about Lauren. And there were pieces missing from the story. What Lauren experienced and saw in Iraq had such a horrific effect on her but the telling of that story is saved for the end of the novel where it is not really explored in depth at all. The epilogue is promising but too easy, leaving out all the hard work of getting to that place mentally and emotionally. But the book as a whole is an important one, shining a light on PTSD, and PTSD in a female soldier at that. It feels like a very real, very raw situation and doesn't allow the reader to turn away from the results of soldiering that don't show on the surface but that lurk deep in the psyche. Emotional wounds are no less vital to treat than the physical ones and Hoffman has made that incredibly clear in the heartbreaking and broken character of Lauren. ( )
  whitreidtan | Nov 12, 2015 |
Some really gorgeous prose at times and a heartrending tale of a female soldier returning from war. A few holes in the stories/characters knocked this down from a 4. ( )
  eenerd | Jul 30, 2014 |
Spectacular exposure for PTSD and the need for recognizing the warning signs in untreated war veterans or those who never received a diagnosis. Learn the warning signs so that what happened to Lauren does not happen to someone you love. We may never know what these men and women were asked to do in the name of serving their country. The decisions they had to make on the spur of the moment can haunt them and distort their reality for the rest of their lives. My father would never tell us anything about his experience in the US Navy in WWII, but my mother told me, that as a newlywed, she would wake in the night and my father was shredding the sheets in his dreams, still fighting the war. When he was dying, my Dad told me that as an eighteen year old, just graduated from high school, boy/man, on his first day in New Guinea, he saw his buddy strangled by a huge snake while operating a bulldozer. Dad could not reach him in time. He kept that inside of himself for forty years. I recommend you read this with compassion and an open mind. We need to do better by our troops. My thanks to the author and The Reading Room for a complimentary copy. ( )
  musichick52 | Jul 27, 2014 |
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