Preface -- This book came out of the pain of "white nights," my own. Nights always measure the innermost heart. I wanted to pass on to other women the kinds of help the might have made those times a little easier for me. There wasn't a book I could pick up in the middle of the night or day and know I wasn't alone. I did read a lot, but I didn't want a "what's wrong with you" book. I wanted practical survival skills.