Painful and sweet. A loving couple with 4 boys has a fifth, but this little guy feels like wearing dresses and playing girl ways. When a father of a playmate acts cruelly and rude, the family moves to a more open-minded community, ptresentingvygeur sin as who he wants to be, a girl. The secret weighs heavy on all of them. So know I understand the term “transgender” in a deeper way. ( )

4.5 stars. I thought this book was excellent as well as enlightening. The only reason I did not give it 5 stars was that, for me, the end was lacking in what I enjoyed the most about the book, the total loving weirdness of the entire Walsh-Adams family.

This is the story of Claude, who is the youngest of five sons to Rosie and Penn. Yet at a very early age, he is different from his brothers. Talking earlier, walking earlier, and...wanting to wear a dress. What starts as no big deal, snowballs into decisions that must be made and lines that must be drawn. Or do they?

This book I think speaks to parents everywhere. How do we make the best choices for our children? Penn answers his own question of when do we absolutely know for certain why a child is doing or feeling something. " Never. Not ever. Not once. You never know. You always guess. This is how it always is. You have to make these huge decisions on behalf of your kid, this tiny human whose fate and future is entirely in your hands, who trusts you to know what's good and right and then able to make that happen. You never have enough information. You don't get to see the future. And if you screw up, if with your incomplete,contradictory information you make the wind call,well, nothing less than your child's entire future and happiness is at stake. It's impossible. It's heartbreaking. It's maddening. But there's no alternative.". As a parent of two adult children, I still second guess some of the choices I made.

I've read other reviews that have commented that the novel is sappy, but I did not find that. I enjoyed the teasing and mild sarcasm in the conversations between the family members. I felt that this was a choice that affected everyone in the whole family, which is why I was disappointed when the focus turned to just Rosie and Claude for a bit. This may because the author has some personal experience and she was only able to share this information from a Mother's viewpoint.

I think this topic is very current and relevant. In her closing notes, Laurie Frankel writes, " I know this book will be controversial, but honestly? I keep forgetting why." I think the world could use a little bit more forgetfulness.

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Some parts of this book grated on me a little bit because the author’s portrait of the big perfect, loving family felt a little too fake to me (and I have experience here since I am part of a family with five kids!) but those things were relatively minor and I liked the book as a whole. How a family copes with something as significant as a transgender child is really interesting and complicated even when that family is welcoming and supportive.



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Sensitive and compelling story of a middle class family with a child exploring another gender. ( )

Really good discussion on gender identity and how the whole family is affected . ( )