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My FAVORITE Book of all time for wives!!! I cannot say enough about this book. I was blessed to be a part of an online Bible Study with other women discussing this book in weekly lesson/discussion format. I was also doubly blessed to be able to take over the online discussion group and lead this study. This book is life-changing!! The light is taken off of the husband and focused on the wife. I learned that it wasn't my husband at fault...it was me that I needed to focus on. God changes and works in the heart of our spouses. We are resonsible for our own actions. Leave the rest to God! Very practical things to do that will transform you (wife) and bless your marriage. Totally Biblically based upon Scripture. A Must have for any wife and the married to be. ( )

Follow up to my previous post regarding "The Excellent Wife" by Martha Peace: after getting a message that disagreed with its theology, I want to encourage anyone to try to read it again. If you get through only the first 6 chapters and then stop because it has been "rubbing you" wrong or you disagree or you feel angry, then please prayerfully consider that it wasn't the book; it wasn't the words of Martha Peace... it was God's Words that you disagree with. The first 6 chapters are RICH in doctrine and biblical truth that lead to faithful obedience (the 2nd section of the book) because of that doctrine. Experiences and feelings are not the foundation for faith or obedience. Truth is. Scripture tells us that the only thing that leads to godliness is truth. Scripture also tells us that sin is what will always hold us back from godliness. "Sin is lawlessness, a transgression from any of God's standards (1 John 3:4). It is failing to trust in and do what God's Word says. Sin is wanting to do things her own way rather than God's way." (The Excellent Wife). What about godliness? here is a question from the Titus bible study that my husband is leading us in here at home: "What relationship is there between the Word, Truth, and Godliness? See Ps. 119:2-3, 9, 127-128; Jn. 17:17; 2 Cor. 4:2; Phil. 1:9-11; 2 Pet. 1:2-3. ". Just looking at the heart of the psalmist in psalm 119, convicts my heart to value the truth of His Word more than i do. Only the truth of the Word can do this, not "experiences", not picking and choosing which parts of scripture you will believe and leaving out the others, not plucking scriptures from context to stir up emotion and distraction.

NO, this isn't an easy book to read. No it isn't going to tickle your ear, make you feel good, or give you an "experience" that fulfills your desires or confirms your flesh. It is, by God's grace, going to put the Lord in His rightful place and, then, put you in your rightful place. And it's a great place! i can personally attest to this! and i am exponentially thankful for the Lord's patience, mercy, and faithfulness to me as i read this every summer
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This was a hard book to just read through but read through I did. It is a book that I will pick up again and do the study guide that came with it as there is much that I needed here. I know that other women in my family and church would greatly benefit from doing the study as well.

I agreed with most everything in this book. This is the life I have tried to live. But I did pick up a few more things that would help me to please God more in my relationship with my husband. There are chapters included for the wife who does not have a believer as a spouse. I know many women like this but not necessarily in an abusive situation. I love how there is scripture throughout so it tells you in many places of The Word God’s plan for the woman (wife).

The only thing that I did not really agree with was the fact that the author put emphasis on certain sins. Sin is sin. There is not one greater than the other in God’s eye. She would say that ” such and such sin was like shaking your fist at God”. Well, all sin is saying you will have your own way and essentially “shaking your fist at God”. So I do not feel that as a woman you are sinning any greater by not be submissive to your husband than you are if you covet your neighbors new car.

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The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace is just what its subtitle says: a biblical perspective on what wives should aspire to be. With so many competing voices telling us about marriage and the role of women, it's refreshing to read what the Bible says about the subject. It's refreshing to see a design different from the dysfunction and failed experimentation of the world.

But make no mistake — this is a book that will upset you. It is not a book for those looking for quick fixes for difficult marriages, or commiseration over the sins of a husband, or feel-good encouragement and sentimentality. This is a hard book... but it is a good book. Like Scripture, Peace reminds us repeatedly of our own responsibility to be godly, no matter what our husbands are like. Our marriages may be difficult, but that is no excuse for sin. It's pretty black and white.

Peace, a NANC biblical counselor, often includes charts that compare sinful responses and thoughts with godly perspectives to adopt instead (for example, "I can't believe he did this to me again" would be replaced with something like, "He did this again. How can I love and help him?"). These charts are helpful tools to train our thinking. There is practical help for women in difficult marriages, especially women married to unbelievers.

The only criticism I would make is that Peace sometimes strains a little too hard to make a certain verse fit her point. She is so concerned with being biblical in all her statements that she interprets a couple verses rather widely to encompass the meaning she wants to convey. I don't want to split hairs, but I do want to be careful with handling Scripture. I wish I had noted some as I read to cite as examples. There weren't many, just a few that made me raise an eyebrow.

I read this book in two pieces — one large chunk all in one day, and then the last couple chapters exactly (quite by accident) a year later. I'm not sure why I didn't finish it sooner. Maybe it was less tempting than fiction. Maybe I felt I paid my dues with reading so much of it in one day, or that I already had all this stuff down. Or maybe it was that I began to see areas in my own life where my godliness as a wife was so far from the real standard of the Word.

I was convicted mostly on my own definition of submission and how it differs from God's (yikes, that's sin, to set up my own definition instead of following His). Biblically, I should be cultivating an attitude of submission that goes far beyond simply deferring to my husband's leadership in the decision-making process. For my own joy as well as that of my husband, I should be seeking to submit constantly and this includes the most mundane details of life. This does not preclude appeals or providential hindrances, of course. It is just a heart attitude that I am seeing is not consistently present in my life.

The doctrine and practice of submission is so open to attack by the secular world that cannot see its inherent beauty. All they see is how it has been misunderstood and abused by fallible people, and I'm sorry for it. But as I work through it in my own life, I know that it is an act of obedience to God. Therefore, it is for His glory and my good and joy. And that is why I will continue to pursue it.

I will very likely revisit this book and use it to minister to women struggling to love their husbands in the way God designed. It's a good resource. ( )