I am currently rereading this book. I didn't much care for it on the first read; however, several people I know have read and liked the book. I decided to give it another try.

It seems like a lot of others liked it, but I just could not get into the book... I found the writing pedantic and cliche, and felt the book was very linear and superficial.

Other reviews have summarized the book, so I will avoid that. I think it addresses interesting topics, but I guess I am also irritated by the way LGBT culture is ALL about gay men, and this book followed the trend.

Not a bad book, and I think the writer does show a lot of promise for the future, I would read another book by him... I just think he needs to develop the depth in his writing. ( )

For a first time novelist [Before I Lose My Style] by Mike Kaspar shows promise. The humor and the set up of it reminded me of early John Irving. The style and story also reminded me a more recent novel, [Selfish and Perverse] by Bob Smith. Both books are light funny stories about searching for sex, self and love in the big city.

I especially liked the trip to the Pic-and-Save (I have the same aversion to big box discounters) and the calamity caused by the forwarded email rang very true. As with all first novels I think this one is probably a bit autobiographical. Then again, there's nothing wrong with writing about what you know.

Before I Lose My Style has been nominated for a Lamda Book Award.

Pick this one up when you can. You'll enjoy it. ( )

Before I Lose My Style by Mike Kaspar is about overcoming the grief of love lost and how a close circle of friends can both help and hinder this process. The narrator, Damon, a thirty something scientist living in L.A., faces life alone after his longtime boyfriend leaves him unexpectedly. Damon fills his life with a series of one night stands until he falls in with a musician from Budapest who is staying with one of Damon's friends. The three of them briefly form a strange and strained relationship that ultimately leaves all of them unfulfilled. Meantime, the rest of their friends must find a way to deal with this new threesome in their midst.

It's in this circle of friends that Before I Lose My Style shows its strength. I find it can be difficult to follow a large cast of characters in contemporary fiction. It's often the case that authors try to introduce everyone in quick snippets during the first chapter, jumping through space and time to do so. In Before I Lose My Style, Mr. Kaspar introduces everyone gradually and keeps the groups small until we know the characters well enough to have them all together in a big party scene. The late night phone calls and email exchanges that are typical of friends dealing with break ups and new relationships are both amusing and heartfelt. There is a funny extended sequence the begins when Damon accidentally hits the reply all button and sends an email critical of one friend's partner to everyone. It's nice to read about friends dealing with issues like this, working it out and getting through it together.

While Before I Lose My Style deals with several serious issues, Mr. Kaspar never loses his overall breezy tone. The book is about a group of friends, and reading it is like being a part of the group--sometimes chatty, sometimes catty, a comfortable fit even during a fight. The grief of a love lost is something common to most circle's of friends; Damon's circle responds in typical ways--taking him out, setting him up, patiently helping him through a series of wrong guys until he finds the right one was right in front of him all along ( )

I would like to say I really enjoyed this book but the truth is I did in the beginning however by the end I had to push myself to finish it. It seemed disjointed and uneasy to follow. At times I felt like the main character was on a drug induced dream or nightmare with reality somewhat lost. The consistancy was just not there for me and I re-read sections trying to make sense out of the story. Truthfully I am still not sure what the story really was. I would not recommend this book. ( )