This is an extremely well written book with some of the best representation I've seen. I love that I could relate to so many things that Ishu was going through. I love that there's more books where girls from different diversities can read and find familiarities in. I liked every bit of it. ( )

This was adorable, and I adore Ishu's sister. ( )

Hani and Ishu are two Bengali girls going to high school in Ireland. Hani is a popular people pleaser who feels like she has to hide her faith and culture from her school friends, because she doesn’t want to be “difficult”. Ishu, on the other hand, doesn’t really have friends at all and all that matters to her is that she can be the best student at school, in order to ensure that she can achieve everything her parents expect of her, academically and otherwise.

The girls attend some of the same family events and are on each other’s radars because of that, but they don’t really interact beyond that. That is, until they both find themselves in need of a fake relationship; Hani in order to convince her friends that she is, in fact, bisexual, and Ishu because she needs to be more popular in order to be voted head girl at school.

The fake dating plotline is pretty run-of-the-mill, and I actually picked this up because that’s one of my favorite tropes. However, it wasn’t really what I enjoyed about this book, even though the romance was cute.

What I enjoyed a lot more were the discussions about friendship, family, faith, and expectations. Hani’s friends are entitled assholes who treat her like shit, and Hani is pretty much a doormat who’s incapable of having her own opinions. She grows a spine by the end, but she was a really frustrating character to read about. I did really like reading about how important Islam was in her life and what kind of difficulties she had with her so called friends because of her faith.

On the other end of the spectrum we had Ishu, who didn’t really care at all about what her peers thought of her, but her actions and decisions were basically dictated by her parents. Ishu’s big sister drops out of school at the beginning of the story, which causes a lot of tension with her parents, who basically shun her for her choices.

This was a really good read, but I feel like the romance was pretty heavily overshadowed by the bigger issues like biphobia, islamophobia, racism, and coping with the burden of familial expectations. ( )

Hani and Ishu’s Guide to Fake Dating takes the oft-used romance novel trope of “fake relationships” and turns it on its ears by giving the reader two girls of color living in Ireland. Hani and Ishu are both Bengali, but have very little else in common despite their school’s insistence. Hani is Bangladeshi Irish and speaks with an Irish lilt. She’s a practicing Muslim, out to her family as bisexual and one of the popular girls at school. Ishu, on the other hand, is Hindu, a studious overachiever, friendless, socially awkward, and firmly in the closet. The two agree to begin a fake relationship because Hani’s white Irish friends invalidate her sexuality, and Ishu wants to become head girl at her school to distract her parents’ from their disappointment in her older sister who has dropped out of college to get married.

The story of Hani and Ishu’s relationship and life struggles are told in alternating chapters, and the reader is never at a loss as to which character is speaking. Distinct personality traits and ways of thinking never waver. In the audiobook version, their voices are even more distinct as Hani speaks with an Irish accent and Ishu’s accent is Indian.

Taking place in a 21st Century pre-COVID but post-Brexit era, the challenges that Hani and Ishu experience as two non-Christian Brown girls in a majority white world is accurate. Hani’s white friends are terribly insensitive and ignorant about Hani’s culture, sexuality, and religion although they claim to be her best friends. Hani doesn’t call her friends out for their microaggressions, small acts of racism, xenophobia, homophobia or Islamophobia. She doesn’t want to rock the boat and accepts being in this toxic friendship. Ishu constantly reminds Hani that she doesn’t have to hide her true self, and that real friends would compromise and not keep forgetting that she doesn’t drink alcohol or pork.

Ishu’s toxic relationship with her parents and her sister are familiar but no less painful to watch Ishu endure. We know about the jokes about the Asian Immigrant Parent stereotypes from the likes of Ronny Chieng, Hasan Minhaj, and Russell Peters. The pressure for their children to perform academic greatness to the detriment of everything else, and attend a university where the career options are to become a doctor, a lawyer, or an engineer. There’s no wiggle room, and the child is a disappointment if they achieve anything less. Ishu has been in competition with her perfect older sister her whole life. When her sister Nik drops out of university to get married, Ishua sees this as an opportunity to leapfrog to the spot of number 1 daughter. The level of competition and jealousy that Ishu has for Nik is so deep that she believes her sister would blackmail her once she realizes Ishu is queer.

Despite the dearth of young adult novels about the Asian experience that has come out over the past 5 years by authors like Gloria Chao, Maureen Goo, Jenny Hann, David Yoon, and S.K. Ali, Han and Ishu’s Guide to Fake Dating still feels fresh as it explores the nuances of Desi culture and the balance of embracing and breaking from tradition. The slow-burn and mutual pining between Ishu and Hani also feels authentic particularly for two people who just now freely exploring their sexuality and venturing into the world of dating. The romantic moments between the two girls are swoon worthy without being cheesy.

In a post-George Floyd and be an anti-racist year, it would be easy to award a book like Hani and Ishu’s Guide to Fake Dating based on the merit of having diverse characters. This book shouldn’t be read, enjoyed, or win awards based on liberal guilt or tokenism, but based on the writing. Adiba Jaigirdar immersed us in the unique world of two brown girls living in a white, heteronormative world. For women-presenting, queer, BIPOC, and immigrant readers, Adiba told a wholly relatable story about two outsiders trying to fit in the only ways they know how. Even if the reader doesn’t consider themselves an outsider or a member of a marginalized community, the book reminds us about the fear and exhilaration of falling in love for the first time. In a year that has been filled with so much pain and tragedy and divisiveness, it’s refreshing read a book that Celebrates Brown Queer Joy. ( )

In Hani and Ishu's Guide to Fake Dating, Hani comes out as bi to her friends, who react in a less than supportive way. She wants to prove to her biphobic friends that she really is bi, decides that what she needs is a fake girlfriend. Enter Ishu, who wants to be head girl to impress her parents, but needs to become popular in school to get the class vote. Fake dating Hani could be her ticket to popularity and the head girl position.

Ishu and Hani are super different. I absolutely adore the grump and ray of sunshine pairing, and I loved all of Ishu and Hani's interactions, especially their banter. Ishu is focused on studying. She has a complicated relationship with her sister and parents that have very high expectations, and she doesn't see the point in being friendly to people she knows don't like her. Hani is the opposite. She is popular, because she works hard to be friendly with everyone. She tries so hard to fit in, but her white friends don't understand her culture. Hani and Ishu sound like they wouldn't get on, but perhaps they are each what each other needs. Both characters are Bengali and Irish, although they have different Bengali backgrounds.

The book deals with parental expectations, peer pressure, cultural pressure, biphobia, family relationships and learning how to be yourself and follow your own dreams. It's a beautiful book, with engaging characters and a story that had me hooked. I particularly liked how Hani has supportive parents, because I'm so used to reading YA where everyone has major issues with their parents. I also loved Hani's relationship with religion, as a queer character who takes comfort in religion rather than being hurt by it.

The fake dating trope! I love this so much. I love that they have a document for the rules of fake dating. I love the slowburn as their relationship begins to develop and change. I love the banter between two very different personalities. I just love all of it! And the drama was so good. I binged the second half of the book because I desperately needed to know how it ended, and I wasn't disappointed.

I loved this as an adult, and I just know it's the kind of book I wish I'd been able to read as a teen. That must go double for any Bengali or other teens of colour, and I hope everyone who needs a book like this gets to read it. ( )