WHO would have predicted that just now, when the far right has launched an all-out attack on women's basic civil rights, the issue eliciting the most passionate public outrage from feminists should be not abortion, not ''pro-family'' fundamentalism, but pornography? The fervor with which some feminist activists have rallied against smut is more than a little ironic, for opposition to pornography is also a conspicuous feature of the new right's program....Between women and men (often the same women and men) there is love as well as war. This may be an impossible contradiction, but it happens to be the contradiction on which our social order rests. A world view that defines male sexuality as pornography as rape leaves no room for mutual heterosexual desire, let alone love; yet a feminism that does not take heterosexuality seriously can neither comprehend the average woman's life nor spark a movement that might change it. If relations with men offer nothing but violence and exploitation, most women's apparent desire for such relations must mean that either men are so diabolically powerful as to have crushed even passive resistance or women have been so brutalized that we have lost the will to resist. Where in this scenario is the possibility of struggle?