The book tries to figure out why and/or how people "click". But something just didn't click. Many people describe this as a Gladwell-like book. Maybe more described a Gladwell-light book. Reading Gladwell, I feel like I'm onto something. Reading Brafman ... I feel like something is just beyond the corner of my eye.

I really do wish they spent more time on the hostage negotiator ... who I felt had the most fascinating story.

I do think the authors missed an important part of clicking .. the person(s) has to have the desire to click. My latest theory on connections between people ... friendships are when two people are searching for commonalities while non-friendships are when two people are seeking for differences between them. With any two people, there are lots of commonalities and differences. And it's really our choice which way to go.

It's more of a 3.5 star book. ( )

Interesting insights into why some people click with another ( )

The ability of people to just get along straight away is one of those things that is a mystery that has fascinated psychologists and sociologists for years. Recent research has started to uncover the details behind those moments when we form a lifelong connection to another person. They tell their story through a series on anecdotes and examples and looks at ‘accelerators’ that will enhance these click moments. The seven accelerators are vulnerability, proximity, resonance, similarity, environment, naturals and personal elevation. These factor strongly influence the way that people and teams with get along. One example that they gave was with a basketball team that generally failed to qualify for the NBA, but over a couple of seasons they had four players who ‘clicked’ and made the team much better than normal, even reaching the point of qualifying, but after they went their separate ways they never really achieved as much.

Written in a similar way to the master of the genre, Gladwell, it has some interesting stories, but all the way through it feels that you are reading a thin veneer rather than something with depth. That said, it was quite interesting, and really didn’t take long at all. ( )

Nice review of some interesting social-psychology research; a nice mix of topics on friendship, influence, and group dynamics. (This was the first time I tried an audio-book while driving ….and it worked out well since the content was intriguing and flowed well in this format.) ( )

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