Penn Holderness

I love their videos，and when I saw this at the library，I thought: why not? When my wife saw it in my pile to read, she was surprised；and then checked out a digital copy to read herself. Neither author has relevant professional credentials, but they make no bones of this,or the role of their own therapist as a not-so hidden ghost writer / inspiration. All in all, its a fun read, and full of good tips and lessons learned. Well worth the short time it should take to go through.

(2023 Review 1)… (mehr)

The best thing about this book is how we can see every fight from two very different perspectives. They are not mindlessly repeating the superficial aspects either. They have obviously worked their way through every incident, and are now sharing the results with us. This includes practical tips and thorough analyses of every typical fight. Now I wish I had someone to fight with!

It requires incredible bravery to be this open and vulnerable in front of... well, probably millions, based on their views on YouTube. You know this amazing family and their hilarious videos, right? I have always appreciated how they tackle serious issues like mental illnesses and other tough life situations, and speak up about them to their large number of followers, setting aside the goofiness for a certain period of time.

This book is a healthy mixture of both: speaking about serious stuff and then lightening the mood with some funny stories and even with songs written on the spot. I'm not a fan of audiobooks as I'm a very visual learner, but I really wanted to listen to this one. And now I have to own it in print, so I can find the pages I want to revisit and remember everything they were talking about.

It made me laugh and cry and then laugh some more (out loud), and realise, and understand and appreciate. Highly recommended.… (mehr)

I’ll admit I am definitely the target audience for this book. My husband and I aren’t dealing with major issues of infidelity, infertility, a child with addiction, or a million other possible issues. Instead, we frequently fight about the small stuff that feels big at the time. They are real issues, that can cause major problems, but they are not insurmountable. That’s definitely the target audience here.

There are tips that I know will stick with me, like saying specific thank yous to your partner, avoiding the three Ds (delay, denial, and distraction), complimenting your spouse, and treating them with the same courtesy and kindness you’d show a stranger. I loved the couple’s honesty, vulnerability, and humor, especially in the audio version. They tackle communication styles, setting boundaries, and rules for how you fight. I found it incredibly helpful and entertaining.… (mehr)