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Lädt ... Living Room Revolution: A Handbook for Conversation, Community and the Common Goodvon Cecile Andrews
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I thought her suggestions for managing difficult situations were quite good (I may well employ some variation of her ideas for helping people get to know each other at my next salon), and I enjoyed some of the pointers in Chapter 5, particularly "Listen," which I find to be an often overlooked aspect of good conversation. A couple of the suggestions, though, didn't sit right with me. It wasn't clear to me how one could plan and implement her suggestion to "Laugh Freely" in a discussion group. "Keep Things in Perspective" may have been a better suggestion to keep things convivial, or "Don't Take Yourselves too Seriously."
I was excited when I saw the suggestion "Tell Your Own Stories" because I immediately translated it to "speak for yourself and not for or about others who aren't present," which I think can cut down on the chance that conversation will turn into gossip, but that's not what Andrews meant. Her meaning---essentially, share something of your personal experience---was fine, but I think it actually goes without saying that we're supposed to share our experiences when we're in conversation. Something along the lines of "Be Vulnerable" or "Cultivate Non-Judgment" might have been more meaningful for me. Of course, this implies that the book ought to be meaningful to me as an individual when in reality, it will either hit me or it won't. It's not Cecile Andrews's responsibility to live up to my preconceived ideas about her book.
There were two primary things about the book that rankled me, though, that transcend the book being not quite what I expected.
First, Andrews is inconsistent about providing citations for her "study after study" claims about the values or community. For example, early on in the book, she refers to "a recent Gallup poll" and gives percentages from that poll that didn't make sense to me. I wanted to read more about the poll, so I turned to the back of the book to look up the citation...and there was no "Works Cited" section. In the beginning of the book, she writes that she's going to provide enough information that we can Google her references and learn more, but many times she doesn't even provide enough to do that. A list of resources at the back, and possibly even web links or at least a little nudge in the right direction would have improved the book, unless she wants it to be a book about her personal experience leading small groups, in which case, there's no need for references. That would have been a totally reasonable way to go, and it would have shortened the book by quite a lot.
The other sticking point for me, which I might not have noticed as much had I not just finished Susan Cain's Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can't Stop Talking is that Andrews seems to have a distinctly extroverted bent. At the beginning of chapters 5 and 6, she has an imaginary woman named Joan who sits at home reading but longs for conversation, community, and connection. After thinking about the difficulties of conversation in our day and age, she sighs and resigns herself to a boring, solitary evening of reading. I both enjoy reading and crave real, meaningful conversation, and I don't actually think it's necessary to give up one for the other. I don't sit at home and read because I have no one to talk to. I sit at home and read because I love to read and because by evening, I need to decompress and social interaction is distinctly compressing for me.
She also takes the general results of studies that show that people who belong to groups have lower mortality rates than loners and makes some logical leaps. So far, I've not seen any research to suggest that a particular number of close friends is healthier than any other number, just that people who have close connections are healthier, yet Andrews seems to imply that those of us content to have our family and one or two close friends are risking our lives because we won't talk to five strangers a day or don't want to live in a co-housing community. As far as I know, this isn't supported by the research (although if Andrews provided better citations, I might be able to judge better). I agree that our society could use a little brush-up (or perhaps a big brush-up) on the community side of things, but Andrews paints just one very extroverted picture of what this improvement might look like.
While this book has some good suggestions for building community through conversation, it would have been stronger if Andrews had stuck with her area of expertise and offered suggestions based on her years of experience with small groups rather than spending so many pages arguing for the benefits of community.
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