Communication and intimacy can feel like a constant struggle in relationships where one partner has Asperger syndrome. For the neuro-typical partner (NT) in particular, this can be an endless source of frustration, misunderstandings, and tears. Drawing on her own experience of being married to a man with Asperger syndrome, the author shows that the road to intimacy begins with letting go of expectations and looking after your own physical and emotional needs. She provides strategies for relating to and connecting with the partner with Asperger syndrome, as well as tips for coping with hurtful words and meltdowns, helping your partner to interpret emotions, and finding further sources of help and support. Above all, she shows that although your AS/NT relationship will challenge beyond what was ever thought possible, by letting go of expectations and respecting each others' differences, this partnership really can be both happy and successful.