Learning about a difficult subject, from someone who knows it intimately, who lives it every day, is so valuable. This book, a mixture of commentary and memoir, is eloquently written, with a tone that manages to be both heartfelt and generous, clear and concise, without becoming too strident or polemic. It's a remarkable work. ( )

Wonderfully written book from a non-binary author who discusses a variety of issues facing the trans community. ( )

What an important book! As the mother of a gender fluid young adult this book was eye opening , beautiful and scary all at the same time. A well researched book that needs to be read. I originally checked it out from my library bit half way through bought a copy to add to my private library. ( )

A very good combination of memoir, social science study, political polemic, history, and opinion piece on feminist theory (and the limitations set by its historical lack of intersectionality.) Lester does not acknowledge in any way the source of people's discomfort with gender nonconformity, and I think just glossing over that discussion limits this to a book that will be broadening to trans allies rather than people still trying to figure things out. One notable example, there is an acknowledgment that for some (certainly not all) gender nonconforming people there is body dysphoria. They then dismiss the possibility that there is a mental health concern with the statement that they is mentally ill, and this is different from their mental health struggles so clearly there is no connection. That sort of tautology (as if all mental health issues and every person's gender dysphoria is the same) weakens what is otherwise a compelling, edifying, and completely worthwhile read. ( )