A New Zealand guide which discusses both Paheka and Maori situations. The information is based upon interviews with bereaved parents and the author's own experiences. The children range from eight hours to 26 years. Chapters include: Grieving: What Does it Feel Like; Ways of Thinking About Death; Our Words, Our Stories; Grief, Relationships and Support; Children and Grief; Spirituality; Rituals; For the Rest of Our Lives. It also includes further reading and organisations. The latter is extremely valuable as it is one of the few lists of New Zealand based organisations.