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An important book that is, alas, marred by Dr. Greene's turgid prose. That said, I look forward to reading his other books; he has much to offer educators.

In Explosive Child, you'll find ways to regain your sanity and optimism and rebuild the confidence to handle your child'sdifficulties completely and lovingly. With Dr. Greene's compassionate, expert advice and insight, you and your child will rediscover newfound hope and a relationship you can both feel good about Questionnaire: Selected Reading Worksheet

In Explosive Child, you'll find ways to regain your sanity and optimism and rebuild the confidence to handle your child's difficulties completely and lovingly. With Dr. Greene's compassionate, expert advice and insight, you and your child will rediscover newfound hope and a relationship you can both feel good about. Selected Reading Questionnaire.

A little repetitive. I think 75% of the book could be cut and still have the same content. That said, I liked the content that was there and felt it helpful.

This book was loaned to me in an effort to better understand my soon-to-be stepson and to understand myself. I was extremely cynical about the methods proposed in this book, but the author raised the same issues, and addressed them with respect and without sarcasm or dismissal. Definitely worth the read. I might suggest an addition to the already long title: "and Parents"

Liked the conceptual framework a lot. The emphasis on collaborative, empathetic problem solving is great.

Thought the anecdotes are a bit too tidy and a bit too long - probably not realistic to find resolution so simply.

In this two-hour program, Dr. Ross Greene (author of The Explosive Child) and his colleague, Dr. Stuart Ablon, help parents understand the specific cognitive skill deficits that can impair a child's capacities for flexibility and frustration tolerance and provide step-by-step guidance on their approach -- known as Collaborative Problem Solving (CPS) -- for teaching these skills. This video features live interviews with parents of behaviorally challenging children and provides answers to many of the common questions parents have about the CPS approach. Questionnaire: 17 short answer, multiple choice and true/false questions.

I loved this book because it taught me about behaviors of children who suffer from these types of conditions and how to get down to their thought processing with patience, assessing the situation and their mind, teaching and learning from them how they can achieve the results that they want, and finding a mutually beneficial and acceptable way to communicate and to meet their needs-and ours-without causing shame or hurtful feelings and regrets.

Finally a book on *teaching* children to manage frustration and upset rather than trying to *motivate* them to do it. Some kids just need to be motivated, but some honestly don't know how. My autistic son is one of them.

Now, most of these strategies I know how to do (let some things go, de-escalate, negotiate) but the reminder was nice. Plus, I can give this book to other caregivers who don't know how to stop triggering meltdowns- it doesn't just explain how, but also WHY to react this way instead of just punishing a child after the fact.

An explosive child has challenging behaviour which can be incredibly hard to understand and manage. This books looks at triggers to anger, plans, consequences and the wider family and is reassuring that you are not alone in dealing with these issues. Sensible advice for any parent, not just those whose children have additional needs.

If it works, it gets a fifth star.

I originally marked this as "abandoned" instead of "read," because I did not actually finish it; I skimmed about the last third of it and made notes. I actually thought it was an excellent book, but found the examples forced and fairly unrealistic, which is why I quit reading them completely and focused on the chapter summaries.

If it works, it gets a fifth star.

A realistic book on parenting to help children who present with challenges. It gives more realistic insight to the phrase "Choose your battles" . The best book I ever read to help my child with autism. Strategies are realistic with real life scenarios. I bought copies for the school library.

“Parents of behaviorally challenging kids know a thing or two about feeling ostracized. They know they’re blamed for their child’s challenging behavior, despite the fact that they have other children who are well behaved. They don’t want to be defensive, but feeling blamed doesn’t make that any easier. They want to trust that their child is being well treated at school, but there are many signs to the contrary. Whatever the school is doing isn’t working – their child is still on the receiving end of countless counseling sessions, detentions, suspensions and worse – but the parents feel powerless to do anything about it.”

This paragraph in “Lost & Found” might be the most insightful and powerful paragraph I’ve ever read. This paragraph sums up the life my husband and I are currently leading when it comes to our child. In one of the most frustrating, worrisome and stressful situations I’ve ever experienced - “Lost & Found” gave me some hope. Hope that my child’s behavior is not due to choices made, or personality issues – but because of a lack of skills to cope with or process certain situations. Dr.
Greene posits that “Kids do well if they can. …if the kid could do well, he would do well, and that if he’s not doing well, he must be lacking the skills to do well.”

He also notes that rarely, if ever, do the punitive actions taken by schools help the situation. They remove the child from the situation briefly, but when s/he comes back, the situation is still the same, if not worse.

He gives advice on using a tool called ASLUP (Assessment of Lagging Skills and Unsolved Problems) so that teachers and parents can best identify where skills need to be taught that then will help change behavior. It is very detailed and in depth and really gets to the heart of issues.

School is out for the summer (thank GOODNESS) – but when it is back in session – I hope to be able to use this advice and that tool to make my child’s school life dramatically better.

This book leads the frustrated parent of a willful and "chronically inflexible child" from the vicious "power struggle" circle that at least this parent can't seem to avoid getting into w/ his 4-y.o. to the virtuous circle of collaborative problem solving. A real life saver.

This has been a helpful book to me, in dealing with an explosive eight-year-old boy.

Empathizing, detailing concerns, and inviting him to help me meet both of our needs helps to minimize the outbursts, and has taught me, perhaps most importantly, to understand why I am giving the rules and limitations I am. A parent who says no, just for the sake of establishing dominance is doing nothing worthwhile for the child. I regret that I am sometimes that parent.

I found this book very useful. Behaviorally, relationally and problem solving/coping skill development with a developmental consideration made this book a very good book for parents.

This program provides the rationale AND the practical steps to helping overly emotional children cope with change, disappointment, etc. While it is geared at families struggling with "explosive" children, the system works well with all children.

Do you believe that kids do as well as they are able or as well as they want to? Dr. Ross Greene believes that kids do as well as they are able and oftentimes, adults treat the problem as if the kids are wanting to misbehave. The truth is that kids who have the most behavioral challenges do so because they lack the skills necessary to behave appropriately and the disciplinary actions most often taken -- suspension or detention for school, or grounding, loss of privileges, etc. for home -- don't make a difference because while they reinforce what kids are doing wrong, they're not showing kids how to change their behavior.

That is where collaborative problem solving, or Plan B comes in. It functions to address the concerns of both adult and child, teaches children problem solving skills, and allows both adult and child to be heard.

I really like what Greene is saying and he explains everything in a way that makes sense -- I think that schools and even parents can really benefit from reading this book and taking its advice to heart. I use the collaborative problem solving strategy with many of the students that I tutor, and I've seen great results from it. If nothing else, giving them a voice in the conversation and letting them tell you why they're acting the way they are is a powerful tool for building a relationship.

Lost at School is easy to follow and pretty much covers everything, from what Plan B is and the theory behind it, to addressing all sorts of common questions that may come up. I did find the "real-life" conversations and story annoying and tedious to get through -- they were too scripted and perfect to allow me to see how the theory actually worked in a real-life situation.

But I do suggest that you take a look at this if you work with kids and have to deal with discipline. I could see it being especially helpful for school personnel and parents.½

This book was a necessity and was rather helpful. Imagine a normal, intelligent child who is able to focus for the most part, but in certain instances explodes suddenly into a rage over trivial things. The Explosive Child tells the story of such children and gives explanations of how to deal with such children, why they may act in such a way, and how to recognize and prevent such occurrences before they get out of control.

While you may think, "Oh no, another disorder to labe...moreThis book was a necessity and was rather helpful. Imagine a normal, intelligent child who is able to focus for the most part, but in certain instances explodes suddenly into a rage over trivial things. The Explosive Child tells the story of such children and gives explanations of how to deal with such children, why they may act in such a way, and how to recognize and prevent such occurrences before they get out of control.

While you may think, "Oh no, another disorder to label children with," Dr. Greene clearly separates the inflexible/explosive child from the pack of dysfunctional children with such disorders as ADHD, tourettes, or autism. His methods for dealing with an inflexible/explosive child require more discipline for the adult than for the child, but are logical and effective. Consequences for misbehavior to a child who already knows they are acting in an unacceptable way, could be counter-productive to developing the skills required for dealing with their inflexibility to change. Greene shows you how to recognize the signs of a meltdown before the child loses all control and tells you how to counter it with empathy and understanding.

This is a good book for all caregivers and teachers; especially those who work with preschool and grade school students. It is also important for any parent with a child that they have lost hope and patience for.½

In the mid-nineties, my school-system switched from a flexible, rule-of-thumb discipline system to today's standard zero-tolerance behavior code, a change mirrored across the nation. Over the next decade, our nation saw a rise in discipline and behavior issues, rising teacher burn-out, a burn-out related to the massive demands placed on teachers to teach in environments in-conducive to learning.

In this context, Dr. Greene's short introduction to Collaborative Problem Solving, or CPS, proposes a new framework of thinking and action in dealing with disruptive behavior. Instead of thinking that student's actions are the result of deliberate behavior (the student wants to act out), Dr. Greene believes a student acts out because the student lacks the skills necessary adapt to the learning environment. The lack of social skills begets disruptive behaivor, which begets a reward-punishment discipline code which fails to teach the needed skills - and if the student doesn't have the skills to behave in school and the punishments don't teach those skills, then something needs to change. Dr. Greene developed a method, CPS, which seeks to teach those skills while reducing discipline issues.

As a teacher, I see the value in this philosophy. While this particular book feels light on the nitty-gritty and his fictional depictions of student-teacher conferences feels more Lifetime than Real-Life, I think the framework has merit. An educational idea worth reading about and integrating into our classrooms.½

#120, 2006

This is a FANTASTIC book, and I would highly recommend it to anyone who has a defiant or easily frustrated child. Just the beginning of the book alone was really helpful to me – the author believes that most children with the sorts of issues he describes in this book (ADD, Oppositional Defiant Disorder, etc.) really are motivated to do well (in other words, it’s not just more discipline that is needed), and that they do well if they have the ability. If they are misbehaving, it’s likely because they don’t have the developmental skills to do any differently.

Then, the author gives some strategies for making the child’s environment “User-friendlier,” to reduce the number of tantrums and other sorts of episodes, mostly through what is basically well-defined “choose your battles” system. I loved this book.½